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A certain kind of loneliness: being wanted, but not for who you really are
There's a version of loneliness I didn't have a word for until recently. It's not the loneliness of being alone. It's the loneliness of being in the room with someone who wants you — who is looking
May 25, 2026
My first sugar date: from getting ready to lying in bed afterward
I spent forty-five minutes deciding what to wear, which was more time than I'd spent on anything else that week. Not because I was anxious about the clothes specifically. I knew what I was going to
May 23, 2026
On being truly seen by a man who has everything
He ordered for the table without making a performance of it. I noticed that first. Not the choice itself — though he got everything right, including the thing I would have ordered but talked myself
May 22, 2026
He never sent a double text. It fascinated me and it broke me a little.
I want to state this plainly because I still find it kind of incredible: in the four months we were in contact, he never once sent two messages in a row without a response from me in between. Not
May 21, 2026
I cancelled four times. The fifth time, I went.
The first time I cancelled, I had a real reason. Work thing. Actually true. I sent the message, he said no problem, and I thought: okay, that's probably the end of that. He messaged again three days
May 19, 2026
He was twenty years older. I didn't expect to feel this way.
There's a version of this essay where I explain myself a lot. Where I preemptively defend the choice, describe what led me here, make sure you understand I'm smart and not naive and have read enough
May 17, 2026
The first time we met, I almost turned around and left
I was standing outside the restaurant for maybe four minutes. Which doesn't sound like a lot until you realize I had walked three blocks past it first, then looped back, then stood there checking my
May 16, 2026
Can you actually get an arrangement in 7 days? I tried
So people kept asking me "how fast can you realistically find an arrangement" and I didn't have a good answer. My first arrangement took me like 3 months because I had no idea what I was doing. But
March 12, 2026